Let’s face it, becoming a bride is one part super exciting and three parts stress. The stress of planning a wedding can turn even a nice, calm woman into a moody, ball of nerves on the brink of break-down and tears. Sadly, many a Wisconsin wedding has been the undoing of perfectly good women who have been driven to extremes in the pursuit of the perfect wedding. Can this stress be stopped? Can a bride really plan a wedding and not break down due to the planning? The following are tips to help you, or the bride in your life, keep cool and minimize the stress:
• There will be bumps. You want your wedding to be perfect but that doesn’t mean there won’t be a few hurdles along the way. Work together with your fiancé and family to handle those obstacles that might show up.
• Stick to that budget. Make a budget and set it in stone. Ice sculptures of swans over your allotted budget? Skip it and focus on making the other details of your wedding wonderful. Going over budget causes too much unwanted stress and can turn even the most level-headed bride into a puddle of tears.
• Don’t go it alone. Ask for help and accept the limitations of the people around you. You can’t do it all yourself; you will need help. Reach out to your trusted family and friends and let them help you. Keep communication open and constant to ensure everyone knows what is wanted and what needs to be done.
• Remember why you are doing this. You aren’t getting married for one day. You are starting out with your love on a life-long journey. The wedding isn’t the important thing; the marriage is. Focus on your love and what it means to you and why you are getting married. Keeping this perspective will allow you to see more clearly that you are setting up a successful marriage and not the wedding of the century.
If you do become a little stressed and feel your emotions getting the better of you, give your fiancé, close friends and family permission to step in and help you re-gain your balance. Sometimes we all need a little help to keep us from falling apart.