No matter if it’s a local Wisconsin wedding or a wedding in middle-of-nowhere America, nuptials are full of traditions that have been around forever. From the bridal gown to the groomsmen, the basic pieces of modern weddings have a place deeply rooted in history. While many wedding traditions speak of love and commitment, some traditions have some very interesting origins. For instance:
Those beautiful flowers carried by the bride and bridesmaids had a more metaphysical purpose in the early days. In Ancient Greece a bride would carry a bouquet of herbs and spices to ward off evil spirits that might want to curse her on her big day. Thankfully today the herbs and spices are used in the food and replaced by bunches of roses and lilies.
While a fancy white dress has become the standard for brides everywhere, in history brides usually wore distinct colors like red and blue to attract good fortune. The lacy white dress was introduced by Queen Victoria at her wedding. In the 1800’s, white was seen as a color representing wealth and privilege and Victoria chose a white dress. Soon the popularity of a white dress for the bride took over creating the tradition celebrated today.
- The Bridesmaids and Best Man
More than just supportive friends, the purpose of these wedding helpers was a little more brutal. The bridesmaids, in ancient culture, dressed like the bride to confuse any evil spirits and individuals wishing the bride any harm. They also acted as a physical protection for the bride as she traveled to her groom’s village.
The best man’s original purpose was to literally capture the bride. In ancient cultures, to ensure that the marriage actually happened, the groom would choose his “best man” (as in most capable) to go and kidnap the bride from her family and bring her to him in order to circumvent any opposition. Thankfully, wedding traditions such as hand to hand combat and abduction has been replaced by loving friends ready to help celebrate the big day.
In ancient Jewish, Roman and Greek cultures the wedding ring was only worn by the bride. The ring was used as collateral to pay the father of the bride and mark the bride as taken property. Thankfully, the modern-day wearing of rings by both bride and groom show that they belong to each other as equals.
Whatever wedding traditions you choose for your big day, make it uniquely your own.
Let’s face it, becoming a bride is one part super exciting and three parts stress. The stress of planning a wedding can turn even a nice, calm woman into a moody, ball of nerves on the brink of break-down and tears. Sadly, many a Wisconsin wedding has been the undoing of perfectly good women who have been driven to extremes in the pursuit of the perfect wedding. Can this stress be stopped? Can a bride really plan a wedding and not break down due to the planning? The following are tips to help you, or the bride in your life, keep cool and minimize the stress:
• There will be bumps. You want your wedding to be perfect but that doesn’t mean there won’t be a few hurdles along the way. Work together with your fiancé and family to handle those obstacles that might show up.
• Stick to that budget. Make a budget and set it in stone. Ice sculptures of swans over your allotted budget? Skip it and focus on making the other details of your wedding wonderful. Going over budget causes too much unwanted stress and can turn even the most level-headed bride into a puddle of tears.
• Don’t go it alone. Ask for help and accept the limitations of the people around you. You can’t do it all yourself; you will need help. Reach out to your trusted family and friends and let them help you. Keep communication open and constant to ensure everyone knows what is wanted and what needs to be done.
• Remember why you are doing this. You aren’t getting married for one day. You are starting out with your love on a life-long journey. The wedding isn’t the important thing; the marriage is. Focus on your love and what it means to you and why you are getting married. Keeping this perspective will allow you to see more clearly that you are setting up a successful marriage and not the wedding of the century.
If you do become a little stressed and feel your emotions getting the better of you, give your fiancé, close friends and family permission to step in and help you re-gain your balance. Sometimes we all need a little help to keep us from falling apart.
When planning a wedding don’t forget to add a little something for your guests; a little token of thanks to those who are sharing your special day. No matter which local Wisconsin Dells wedding venue you choose, formal or rustic, the wedding favors should be a little bit of love from the bride and groom. Some fun and elegant favor ideas are as follows;
- Everyone loves a little something sweet and it’s even better when it comes in a cute bag or package. Candy is one of the most versatile wedding favors. It can be high-end and elegant chocolates, or fun and funky hard candy mixes. Choose a packaging that reflects your theme with a little personalized message. Adding little bags of candy for your guests is a fun and easy little gift.
- Christmas ornaments or little trinkets to hang in a garden are a unique favor guests are sure to love. If choosing a holiday ornament, pick out a plain design option with a little touch of flare, like simple wooden ornaments with a little metallic paint to add some sophistication. Add a little tag to thank your guests and everyone will enjoy their new ornament.
- Monogrammed items. A popular choice for many couples are monogramed items like mugs, ceramic tiles or small wine glasses. These favors can be beautiful as well as useful. The only issue with monograming items is the cost. If you are on a tight wedding budget, choose smaller items to have monogramed to keep the price under control.
- DIY food kits. Fun and creative, do-it-yourself food kits are a terrific way to express thanks in a unique way. Cute little personalized packets of hot chocolate, ready to assemble and roast smores, un-popped pop-corn or even ground coffee packets are delightful little gifts for your guests. Choose a food item you both love, something that is special to you to share with your guests. Add a little tag or message and you will have the perfect favor for your big day.
There are so many wonderful ideas for creating the perfect wedding favors for your guests. Just remember, whatever you choose, keep it simple and let it reflect you and your fiancé’s personality. Your guests will love it.